1. Sudden loss of interest: If your teen abruptly loses interest in activities they previously enjoyed, hobbies, social interactions, or academics, it could be a sign of emotional distress.
2. Dramatic personality changes: Noticeable shifts in your teen's behavior, such as becoming withdrawn, excessively irritable, angry, or displaying uncharacteristic aggression, may indicate underlying emotional turmoil.
3. Reckless behavior: Engaging in reckless activities without considering potential consequences, such as engaging in dangerous sports, substance abuse, or unprotected sexual encounters, can be a sign of self-destructive tendencies.
4. Unexplained physical complaints: Persistent physical complaints such as frequent headaches, stomachaches, fatigue, or unexplained aches and pains may be a manifestation of psychological distress.
5. Preoccupation with death or suicide: If your teen frequently talks, writes, or jokes about death, dying, or suicide, even in a seemingly casual manner, it should be taken seriously and addressed immediately.
6. Social withdrawal: Your teen may start isolating themselves from friends, family, and social activities they once enjoyed. They may spend excessive amounts of time alone in their room and avoid interaction.
7. Changes in sleep patterns: Pay attention to significant changes in your teen's sleep habits. This can include difficulty falling asleep, insomnia, excessive sleeping, or frequent nightmares.
8. Loss of appetite or changes in eating habits: Significant weight loss or gain, a sudden disinterest in food, or irregular eating patterns may be indicative of emotional distress.
9. Giving away belongings: If your teen starts giving away prized possessions, especially items that hold sentimental value, it may be a warning sign that they are preparing to say goodbye.
10. Decline in academic performance: A sudden and significant drop in grades or a lack of motivation towards schoolwork can be a sign of emotional struggles.
11. Increased substance abuse: Teens at risk for suicide may turn to drugs or alcohol as a way to cope with their emotional pain. Watch for signs of increased substance use or a sudden change in their relationship with drugs or alcohol.
12. Expressing feelings of hopelessness or worthlessness: Pay attention to your teen's conversations, writings, or social media posts for expressions of hopelessness, feeling trapped, or that they are a burden to others.
13. Drastic mood swings: If your teen experiences extreme mood swings, going from depression to sudden bursts of energy or euphoria, it could be a sign of underlying emotional distress.
14. Loss of interest in personal hygiene: Neglecting personal grooming and hygiene, such as not showering regularly or neglecting their appearance, may be indicative of emotional struggles.
15. Sudden calmness after a period of turmoil: If your teen has been exhibiting signs of distress and suddenly appears calm or at peace, it may be because they have made the decision to attempt suicide.

If you start to see some of these signs in yourself, or as a parent you observe these behavior changes in your child, start by talking to them. Ask if they are ok?  Then seek the help of a professional, a school guidance counselor, your physician or a therapist to see if they agree that these signs are concerning. 

If you are struggling, it’s ok to share your feelings.  Here are a few helpful things from the International Association for Suicide Prevention.  You could tell a friend or parent, or text, to someone you trust.  Here are some examples of how to ask for help:

“When you get a chance, can you contact me?  I feel really alone and I’m afraid I might hurt myself and I could use some support.” 

“I don’t want to die, but I don’t know how to live.  Talking with you may help be feel safe.  Are you free to talk now?”

“This is really hard for me to say but I am having painful thoughts, and it might help to talk.  Are you free?”

“I’m struggling right now and just need to talk to someone-can we chat?”

988 is the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

We can all help prevent suicide.  This lifeline is free and confidential.  It is available 24/7 to support people in distress.  https://988lifeline.org

Important Note: The majority of teens who die by suicide have an underlying mental
health condition, such as depression or anxiety. Recognizing the signs of mental
distress and providing early intervention can be life-saving. Please contact your child’s
healthcare provider for follow-up.

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson